Showing posts with label privileges. Show all posts
Showing posts with label privileges. Show all posts

Tuesday, February 12, 2008

What Does "Two Hours" Mean?

Our oldest has been grounded from any kind of video game (XBOX, computer, etc.) for about a month now. Actually, it was going to be over after the third week and then he made a silly bet with me that I couldn't get the sound to work correctly on the loft computer. I probably shouldn't have done this, but I told him that if I couldn't get it to work I'd take him to Taco Bell twice in the next week and that if he lost, it was one more week sans video games. I even told him that I was 100% sure I could do it and he still made the bet. But I digress...

Yesterday was his first day having video game privileges back and we decided to make it more structured. Today he would get two hours to play (since it was such a long wait) and then one hour each day after that. This privilege would be expanded as he expanded his responsibilities with school and around the house. It's a good motivation for him (we think).

Well, he played a new game that he recently received as a gift for two hours straight and then we told him it was time to shut it off. That seemed to work great...until a few hours later he asked if it was ok to go over to a friend's house to play.

"Sure," I replied. As long as you don't play video games.

"What?!?" he asked with his jaw dropping. "It used to be that that only applied to home. You mean, I can't play with my friends?"

In his world, he got two hours to play video games at home and then as long as he was somewhere else, that was strictly off the clock. Sure, I like how his ingenious mind works, but it just will not work that way. We had a pretty long talk about it and he was--and still is--somewhat upset. He told me several times that it didn't "make any sense at all." Plus, I am not making it so that he cannot play with his friends because all his friends ever do is play video games. I should call their parents and tell them that he said that.

So, I'm curious on your thoughts. Remember, this is a 14 year old boy that I'm dealing with. We still get along pretty well.

Oh, and I'm pretty sure that the kids don't play a lot of Pong these days, but I couldn't resist the image.